Is it ok not to have sex for years/decades?

Thank you Barbara Greenberg! In her article today about Tim Gunn, of Project Runway, Greenberg is perhaps one of the few professionals who says what so many of us are thinking: you don't have to have a sexual partner to be happy -- http://www.thirdage.com/sex/how-much-sex-do-you-really-need.

She also acknowledges that you can have sexual activity without having a partner and that you can make up for some of the deficits of lack of touch in other ways (massage for instance, or simply many hugs by friends).

I am so pleased to see this common sense balanced article that opposes all the (to me) implications of how you are living an unbalanced, unnatural life if you don't have a sexual partner.

Tim Gunn may have a low sex drive, or he may simply be choosing to live by his own standards of not having sex with someone unless he is not only attracted but feels there is relationship potential or love. What a concept!

And thank you to Courtney Cox for admitting she hasn't had sex or gone on a date in over a year since splitting from husband David Arquette: http://www.thirdage.com/news/courtney-cox-i-havent-had-sex-for-a-year_02-09-2012.

One more affirmation that you don't have to run off and have sex right away. Maybe meet someone for whom you have feelings first.

When sex is equated with monetary value, it changes the nature of sex in the relationship. I would think.

I heard the best story on NPR today about 2 30-year-olds who had been together since age 17 and decided it was important to sleep with others before they got married. So they gave each other 30 days to do that, and each made the most of that time. Then they gave each other another 30 days. Same thing. Then another 30 days. By that time, they realized that there was other stuff out there that they wanted besides what the two had to offer to each other and they broke up amicably and are still friends to this day. Avoiding a divorce.